The Self Love Tag

‘If you like the way you look that much, baby you should go and love yourself..’ OKAY THEN JUSTIN IF YOU INSIST.
When Envy tagged me in her post of The Self Love Tag, I was actually quite excited. That’s quite sad isn’t it? Getting excited over a blog post. Anyway, I think this is the ‘Tag’ post I relate to most and think absolutely everyone should do to feel good about themselves and remember that there is only one of you on this planet. I also think this is a really relevant post to begin my re-branding.
I was thinking the other day, that when people are talking badly of someone because they’re selfish, they usually say, ‘oh, she loves herself.’ But I think there’s a difference between selfishness and loving yourself. It’s good to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then how can you expect anyone else to? Anyway…
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The Rules:

1. Answer all the questions honestly

2. Tag five people who you want to bring a bit of happiness to

What is something that is getting you down at the moment?

There’s a couple of situations in my life right now that are really bothering me. Like, really bothering me and I think about them everyday and the anger still hasn’t left. I’ve done everything I can to try and fix it but nothing works. I’m trying so hard to be positive with things just now and this is the only thing that niggles away at me. Hopefully time will fix it but who knows.

What is something that makes you happy?

Food. Obvs. Doesn’t food make everyone happy? It’s great. Something that makes me happy is when I have spent time with friends or family and I’m left feeling very optimistic about things. That always makes me happy and it’s been happening a bloody lot recently which makes me feel so good!

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Name 3 guilty pleasures!

Teen Mom UK. I have absolutely no idea why I was so obsessed with it when it came out in the UK because I never watched the original ones.  But they have confirmed a second season and I am so BUZZING.

Singing out loud with head phones in on the way to work. Okay, I only ever do this when I’m walking on the back road but it feels so good. Dreading the day I get caught though.

15 year old Justin Bieber’s album My World is honestly my biggest guilty please ever. I absolutely love it. FAVE FAVE FAVE. Do you know what? I don’t even know if it’s a guilty pleasure or just a pleasure.

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What is something about yourself you’d like to improve on?

I can be quite paranoid at times and I’d love to not be as bad one day. I am constantly doubting myself and always worrying about things. I always think people think the worst of me which is not great for my self esteem. I am working on it though!

When was the last time you belly laughed?

Last night. I find myself properly hard laughing quite often when I’m with friends because they are just so funny and we manage to get ourselves into some strange situations. But I properly belly laughed last night with Michael when I never realised that my screensaver had started playing but the music for the TV show was still on and I thought that the changing screen of The Great Wall of China and then a Mediterranean beach were the opening scenes of The Handmaid’s Tale. Obviously it was a ‘had to be there’ moment but most of my life is to be honest.

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What is your biggest insecurity/fear?

Losing everyone I love – whether that be by death (soz, morbid) or just by drifting. It gives me the absolute fear the thought of growing up and being lonely ya know.

Name a song that always cheers you up when you’re down.

McFly – Love Is On The Radio. Without a doubt, 110%. I have music for every kind of mood but that is definitely my all time favourite that really lifts my spirits when I’m down. Honestly, put it on just now and I promise that you won’t be able to stop smiling.

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Name 3 things you like about yourself

I can make people laugh (which I bloody love doing by the way. Even if I don’t mean to.) There’s nothing more satisfying than seeing someone’s face brighten up.

My hair isn’t too bad to be honest. It almost always plays ball and grows pretty quickly so that’s always a relief when it gets cut too short. It can also hold a curl for ages and I like it’s natural wave.

My music taste is AMAZING. I absolutely love when I haven’t listened to a certain playlist in ages and then when I do, each song is an absolute tune and I’m like ‘I made this. I am the creator of this mix of artists put together. I am genius.’

What is an achievement that has made you proud of yourself this year?

This year? Damn. Ehhhh… I actually haven’t really achieved much this year which is annoying. There’s little goals at work I set myself and I’m pleased when I meet them. In fact, there’s quite a lot at work that I have achieved that I’m proud of. I’ve managed to learn quite a lot and grow in such a short period of time.

Tell us your happiest memory.

Do ya know what? I have so many happy memories and can’t pick one so I think I’ll leave this one for another time and maybe give it a post of its own.

I wish I could do something in person to give the following 5 people happiness but I hope they find this tag as reflective as I did!

Karina Turnbull

Holly Da Silva

Kirsty Jarvie

Megan Rees

Chloe Tommo

Much love,

louise-x

5 Reasons Why I Decided To Re Brand

For quite some time now, I’ve realised that I’ve been losing my direction when I’m blogging. I sometimes lack motivation and ideas but when I have them I put everything into it. So I’ve decided that I now know what I can do to change this.

Boredom

Quite frankly, I am bored of my own blog. And if I bore myself, I’m not exactly going to keep the attention of my followers, am I? So I knew I needed to change something if I wanted to continue writing.

I found a niche

When I first started this blog, I knew it wasn’t going to fall into a niche. I just wanted to write whatever I felt like at the time. And to an extent, I still will be. What I’ve realised is, that my passion lies in writing to make myself feel better or get things off my chest. Even my ‘monthly favourites’ posts may seem like they are more beauty based but to be honest, it’s just things that have made me happy during that month. So, I’ve decided to focus on Mental Health & Well-Being. That’s what most of my post are based upon, and I honestly think I’ve finally found my niche.

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Because I no longer care about what other people think

When I began writing about mental health, I was absolutely shitting myself. Part of me thought ‘I don’t want everyone knowing what’s going on in my life’ and then the wiser part of me thought, WHY NOT, I’m not the only one who has a bit of a shit time in their head. Well, I’ve now got to the stage where I no longer care about what people think.

To raise awareness of mental health

If people don’t talk about mental health then how can we fight the stigma? Hmm. Exactly. So, if I do my tiny little part of talking and sharing my experiences, maybe even more people will open up and start to help themselves get better.

To help others

If I can help one person, even the tiniest little bit, by sharing my tips or experiences then that would make me so so happy. Lots of people are talking about mental health now, especially in the blogger community which I think is absolutely incredible. GO TEAM.

SOOOO, many of you might not give a damn or even notice a difference but I wanted to share with you why I have decided to re-brand. I hope you’re all well.

Much love,

louise-x

June Favourites

I love sharing my favourites at the end of every month but I feel I didn’t have too many this month! I still had to share what I was loving because some of these products deserve a post of their own!

 

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Bondi Sands / Self Tanning Foam / Light-Medium

I’ve really wanted to start tanning as the sun is shining more and I’m feeling summery. I wanted to try a new product instead of the usual build up tan moisturisers or St Moritz for a night out. I had heard so many good reviews about Bondi Sands so I bit the bullet and bought it. Probably one of the best purchasing decisions I have made. I am absolutely in love with it. Even when I use a tanning mitt with a gradual moisturiser, I always end up streaky. But with this, no streakiness at all! It also smells amazing. I love the coconut smell of this.

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L’Oreal / Infallible / 24H Matte Waterproof foundation

I had seen so many good reviews about this foundation online, especially by people who have oily skin. I went into Superdrug and tried out both the Infallible Total Coverage and Infallible 24H Matte. I usually always opt for a foundation that’s full coverage but I’ve been noticing my skin doesn’t need it as much in the summer months. I ended up choosing the 24H Matte over the Total Coverage as it seemed a lot more lighter and not as thick. I absolutely love this foundation and it honestly lasts all day! It took me a while to match my skin tone but in the end Natural Rose was absolutely perfect for my skin.

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Manna Kadar / Sheer Glo / Liquid Highlighter

I had never heard of this brand before so had no expectations at all when I received it in my Glossybox. I was so surprised at how much I loved this product! I’ve never used a liquid highlighter before so wasn’t quite sure I’d use this product. When applying, it doesn’t seem like much is going on your face but once you have blended, the pigmentation is amazing! I’d definitely repurchase this highlight.

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111SKIN / Space Defence Bright Eye Lift Gel

I received this product in June’s Glossybox. I’ve been looking o try out an eye cream for a while now so I thought, why not. But at the same time, I didn’t have high expectations as hardly any skin care products work on me. However, I’ve been using this for about two weeks now and I have actually noticed a difference in the skin around my eyes. The lines in this area are not as visible and my make up seems to be applying much smoother. The cream is lightweight which I love although it does crust slightly over night. I would recommend this product SO much but buying it in full size is very pricey!

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Benidorm / ITV

Benidorm is a British sitcom written by Derren Litten  for ITV. The series features an ensemble cast of holiday makers and staff at the Solana all-inclusive hotel in Benidorm Spain. I honestly have no idea why I have never watched it before cos it’s honestly hilarious. I loke having something to watch in the background when I’m tidying and doing other stuff and for this month, it has been Benidorm. Madge is definitely my favourite character!

I don’t feel like I have many favourites this month but I’m already loving so much that I have bought/discovered towards the end of the month so stay tuned for next months favourites. What have you been loving this month?

Much love,

louise-x

It’s the little things in life

I feel like we spend a lot of our time nagging and complaining about things. I am extremely guilty of this. We focus to much on the negative stuff that goes on and not enough on the positive. If somebody does something for us, we do our best to show them appreciation. But sometimes I think we need to remember the little things in life, the small things that may not change our lives, but do in fact make us happy. The things that make our lives a little brighter.

When someone else cooks for you

Sometimes after a long day at work, the last thing I want to do when I get home is make my dinner. I absolutely love when someone else cooks for you. I always enjoy the meal so much more.

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When it is sunny enough to hang your washing outside

Honestly, there is nothing better than the smell of freshly washed laundry that has been dried by the sun on the washing line. I absolutely love it.

The feeling of freshly shaven legs against clean bed sheets

I LOVE having a pamper night and shaving my legs, moisturising and getting into a freshly made bed. SO SOFT.

When the first day of a new month starts on a Monday

I told you it’s the little things…I love when this happens because it feels like I can start everything fresh. And it helps with actually knowing what date it is.

A perfect cup of tea or coffee

I absolutely love a good cuppa tea or coffee. Especially when you’re busy and sit down to relax and make a tea or coffee and just expect it to be average and then BAMMM. It’s a reallllly good one.

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When you find a really comfy position as soon as you get into bed

I often struggle to fall asleep for a while when I’ve gone to bed. But the past week I have been so comfy that I’ve managed to fall asleep straight away.

Instantly falling in love with a book

See when you are only like 15 pages into a book and you just know it’s gonna be a good one? There is no better feeling.

When you come across a REALLLY good meme

What is better than a good laugh? I love these Theresa May ones so much right now.

When it’s pouring with rain outside and you don’t need to leave the house

9 times out of 10, I have to leave the house when it’s absolutely pouring with rain but on the chance that I can stay indoors and be cosy in pj’s when it’s raining, I love it!

When someone shares good news

I absolutely love it when I see that someone has been successful or something good has happened to them. Even more so when it is a friend or family member.

So there’s 10 little things in life that make me happy. What makes you happy?

Much love,

louise-x

13 Reasons Why…We Should Talk about Mental Health

*Trigger Warnings Throughout.

Stigma is everywhere. And we all know it’s a problem. Education about mental health is needed not just in schools, but in society in general. Netflix’s recent production of ’13 Reasons Why’ has got many people talking about suicide and mental health. No matter what your opinion of the show is, we can all agree that this is a step in the right direction towards breaking down the stigma. We must talk about mental health. And I’ll give you 13 reasons why…

    1. So that people know they’re not alone

Talking about mental health can sometimes be comforting to sufferers as they know they are not alone. At first it can seem pretty daunting but once you have shared your feelings, the biggest step has been taken. There are so many people around you that are also suffering and it’s so important that people are made aware that they are not alone.

 2. People will be more likely to ask for help

There are so many silent sufferers out there who have no idea how to handle what’s going on in their heads. Talking openly about MH can help people come forward and ask for help

    3. So people know that it’s completely, 100% okay, not to be okay

Bad days and even bad weeks are completely normal. Together we can all help each other. Always remember, it’s absolutely, 100% okay, not to be okay!

    4. So people can think about having a future

The 2017 Samaritans Suicide Statistics Report tells us 6,188 suicides were registered in the UK and 451 in the Republic of Ireland.  This statistic is extremely high. It pains me that so many people just cannot go on any longer or see a future. The more we talk about mental health, hopefully, more people will seek help and know they have options.

    5. To be able to support your loved ones

You might think you know somebody extremely well and that you know absolutely everything that happens in their life. False. We have absolutely no idea what is going through anyone else’s head unless they tell us. Talking about mental health provides an opportunity for loved ones to tell you how they are really feeling, which can then help us support them.

    6. To understand your own feelings

1 in 4 people suffer from a mental health illness. Many of us can go about our everyday lives with feelings and symptoms unexplained, causing us to suffer. Talking and education ourselves about mental health allows us to have a deeper understanding of our own feelings.

    7. Our mental health is just as important as our physical health

We need to pay attention to our mental health just as much as our physical health to help us function.

    8. Help people figure out triggers

Helping people identify what triggers them can help them greatly. By distinguishing what triggers unwanted symptoms of their mental health, sufferers can try to avoid them and/or find a way of coping!

    9. So you can look out for warning signs

By recognising warning signs, you can help both yourself and somebody who may be suffering!

   10. It is everywhere!

Our mental health is with us every single day of our lives, whether it’s good or bad mental health. There is no way of avoiding it. Yes, you can block it out for a while but at some point you need to pay attention to it before it’s too late.

    11. We have a right to live!

It’s a human right.

   12. Somebody is always there to listen.

It doesn’t matter what time of day or night it is. There will always be someone willing to listen to you. If you’re worried about waking up family or friends to speak about things then there are other options. You will not be judged. Samaritans are there every day of the year, every hour of the day.

13. To break the stigma!!

People should not be afraid to ask for help.

 

Please speak out if you need help, it’s a massive step towards feeling yourself again!

Much love,

louise-x

 

Inner Emptiness

Do you ever feel so disconnected from everything? That’s how I feel at the moment and it’s strange. It’s not making me happy yet it’s not making me sad. It’s making me feel distant. From everything and everyone.

I feel like I’m not achieving anything at the moment, I’m just kind of getting on with day to day life and existing. But what use is existing? I want to live. And I know that I’m the only person who can make that happen. I’ve been doing lots of things with my time and haven’t been as active on social media. Not because I’ve wanted to spend time offline, but just because I don’t feel like I have anything to say. Which honestly, is not like me . AT ALL.

I just can’t put my finger on what it is and I just want to be full of energy again.

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I have a small circle of friends who are absolutely amazing. Everyone has busy lives and I completely understand this as I, too struggle with keeping up with people. I’m the sort of person who freaks out if I feel like I haven’t put much effort into meeting up with friends. I don’t know why because we are all so busy, but I just feel so much guilt. I don’t know where I’m going with this but I just need to get it out. I’ve been putting in lots of effort the past few weeks to see friends that are available but I still feel disconnected from people. It makes me think. Are we all too busy in our day to day lives that we forget to think of how we are feeling? I have no idea.

I just don’t feel anything at all really. When I think back on my week and to stuff I was doing I think to myself ‘was I actually there?’ Sometimes, it just doesn’t feel like I was at all. It’s strange. It kind of feels like an outer body experience or something. This post is completely pointless but I guess I’m just letting it out and wondering if anyone else gets like this too? I hope this post doesn’t come across as negative, because that’s not how I’m feeling. It’s just the truth. I have no idea if this feeling is anything to do with my mental health but it is bothering me a lot.

I don’t feel sad which is good. Because I hate feeling sad. I would say I feel empty. It’s just all very weird. I’m going to try my best everyday to write a little about how I feel and what’s going on inside my head, I won’t know if it works until I try. I like doing things that help me understand my mind more so here’s hoping!

I don’t know why I’ve published this post but it feels good letting it out.

I hope you’re all well!

Much love,

louise-x

 

Louise Chatters : February

February has been just wonderful! I had one dreadful week but apart from that it was great. Things had just been piling up for a bit so naturally, I had a good cry one night and that seemed to make everything better.

I read A LOT this month. So so many good books. I’ll be sharing with you what I’ve read this month through a post next week.

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I went to see Still Game Live with my niece Nicole, who very generously got us tickets for Christmas! It was absolutely hilarious. SO SO funny. And we went for a beaut meal at Bar Soba beforehand to catch up and it was great.

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I had 4 days of annual leave this month and booked a last minute trip to Paris with Michael. Despite studying French up until the end of my second year of uni, I have never actually been to France. My oh my, I completely fell in love with Paris. The trip was absolutely incredible and UHHH, blog post to come.

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Veggie week was absolutely fine, once again. I’ve been thinking a lot and going to try and cut a lot more meat out of my diet. I’m still too scared to 100% commit though.

So, I had my first session of therapy with my new psychiatrist. I would normally be really positive about therapy and be able to look at the benefits I got from each session but my first session with my new doctor, was not great. I mean, this therapy is now weekly so I understand it’s going to be a lot more in depth but I just didn’t get anything from the first session at all. We talked about a period of my life that was completely irrelevant and honestly, has no meaning. Fingers crossed next week will be better! I have faith.

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I feel like things have been quite quiet over here this month, I’ve missed two posts which is really unlike me. I don’t know what’s up but I feel like I’ve lost my mojo and just haven’t felt like writing. Fingers crossed I’ll get my flare for writing back soon. I feel like all social media has been slightly quieter this month which is strange. I’m now sitting at 1652 Twitter followers and 365 Insta followers which has not stopped going up and down. I feel like this is the worst that the ‘follow to unfollow’ game has ever been. No need to dwell though, still got 10 months to reach my goals!

 

Much love,

louise-x